True confession time:

The past few weeks have been…well, let’s say challenging. Am I the only one?

I know I’m not because it seems to be “going around.” Almost all of the sensitive friends I have are feeling somewhat “off,” with old patterns re-emerging to kick their butts. I’m no exception. I’m in the midst of a great butt-kicking right now!

I’m always the first one to get excited about someone else’s challenge because in my heart I know that challenge always means that something gorgeous is being birthed. As a coach, it’s actually one of my favorite times to work with someone because I know it means that my client is usually on the verge of an amazing breakthrough.

When I’m the one being challenged, however, “excited” is not exactly what comes to mind. However, after 42 years of challenges, I’ve moved into a new place of appreciation for them. While the struggle can lead to feelings of frustration, confusion, very loud inner voices, and a myriad of other emotions, there is also a part of me that knows that it’s for me in some way.

I know there is a gift being offered in the midst of the challenge and it’s up to me to find it. 

This time around, my challenge emerged and stuck around for a few weeks. I kept waiting for things to magically resolve, but it seems that I hadn’t yet found my gift, so the challenge remained and I felt stuck. Yesterday I had my a-ha moment and my gift was delivered. My gift was the realization that I had moved from a place of joy in my business to a place of frustration. I was feeling a sense of disconnection where my business became overwhelming as my single focus, topped off by a feeling of massive effort where I was pushing and forcing things to happen. I let it consume most of my thoughts. I had lost all balance in my life making it the only priority in my life aside from my family.

No wonder I was feeling stuck and my business was feeling draining instead of energizing!

It’s ironic, too, because I know exactly what to do to turn the tide and I coach others on this daily. It’s amazing how we can lose perspective in our own lives when our perspective on other’s lives can be crystal clear. I needed to find my own perspective again.

So how did I turn the tide? Yesterday, I filled every single free moment I had with pleasure, and I’m devoting myself to this practice daily until the joy returns. To be honest, it’s actually back already and it only took one day, but it’s something that I had lost sight of for a few weeks, so daily pleasure is coming back to take priority in my life.

The gift was coming home to myself again.

To revel in things that make me feel amazing, and to do it as though it’s the most important thing in the world, and you know what? It is the most important thing in the world. Here’s why.

If you’re aware of the Law of Attraction or Manifesting, then you’re familiar with the teaching that how you feel is the most important thing. 

So when you’re feeling amazing, you’re in manifesting mode and you’re attracting the things you want more of to you. You become a magnet for your desires. However, when you’re feeling joyless, depleted, or in a state of depression (as I was), you push the things you want farther away from you.

In order to grow your business (or fall back in love with it), joy must come first. Yes, action is important, but if you are leading with action and forgetting pleasure, here’s what can happen. You will be:

  • Exerting massive outward effort without refilling your well
  • Pushing and forcing
  • Thinking, “I must make this happen”
  • Focused on the outcome instead of the journey
  • Lost in thought and disconnected from your body
  • Depleted by your effort without regenerative energy coming in
  • Stuck
  • Without ideas or the inspiration to create
  • Depressed
  • Anxious

Yuck. Talk about uninspired! If you are feeling any of these things, just stop what you’re doing right away. Just stop. You cannot solve your problem with more “doing” or trying to think your way out of it. The solution is simple: add pleasure. Make it your number one focus and do it like it’s your job. Then see what shifts for you.

I can bet that you’ll see shifts in all areas of your life. I bet your relationships will improve. I bet your happiness levels will go way up. I bet you’ll start being kinder, softer, more gentle with yourself and with those around you. Why? Because you’ve changed the lens through which you see your life. You’ve raised your vibration. You’ve moved into the magnetic and attractive mode and can receive the results you want in your business and in your life.

So while one of my gifts was the reminder that fun, joy and pleasure is more important that blind effort, I also got another gift: an idea. I believe that everything happens for a reason and now that I’m on the other end of my challenge, I believe that the reason I was gifted this challenge was so that I could birth this next event. Thank you, Universe!

My goal is to help everyone who is ready and willing to raise their vibration so they can see big shifts in their business and their lives. In truth, that’s my mission in life and the focus of the work that I do as a coach. So, starting on Monday, April 10th,

I’m hosting a FREE 5-day Facebook Challenge:
THE PLEASURE CHALLENGE,
and you’re invited to join me!

We will be focusing on raising your overall happiness levels through daily pleasure. The focus will be on enjoying your life, living it to the fullest and finding the gifts that are right in front of you so you can unlock more success in all areas of your life! If you are an entrepreneur, you will see how shifting your focus will lead to massive shifts in your business, so you can serve more people and show up in an even bigger way!Will you join me? 

NOTE: You do not have to be an entrepreneur to join. You simply need to have a desire to get more joy and happiness out of life. Who doesn’t want that?

If you want to join the Free group, simply Register by clicking HERE and you will get a link to join the Facebook group! We kick off on Monday, April 10th, but you’ll be getting a welcome from me on Sunday night before we start.

If you’re ready to join me, I have one favor to ask: If you know of anyone else who needs this (and so many of us do!), will you please share this post with them? My goal is to reach as many people as possible and I would love to include as many women as I can who need a big shift in their lives. By sharing this post, you are giving me a tremendous gift and I thank you from the bottom of my heart because it’s helping me fulfill my life purpose. It means a lot!

I am SO excited about this and I hope you are too! If you have any questions, please don’t hesitate to reply to this email with questions. I can’t wait to spend next week with you!

With so much love,

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Cortney is a Mindset and Self-Care Coach for Heart-Centered Entrepreneurs. She is also a writer, speaker, mentor and advocate for Highly Sensitive, Empathic, Intuitive and Spiritual Women. Her passion is helping women (and a few good men), achieve more success in their business and more happiness in their lives through divine self-care, mindset coaching and manifesting so they can live their highest purpose and reach their full potential.

Cortney earned a B.A. from Vassar College in Art History and a Masters of Architecture from Catholic University. Following her heart later in life, she became certified as a health coach with the Institute of Integrative Nutrition. She became a “health architect,” dealing with her own health crisis and struggle to manage anxiety and depression. She emerged stronger, happier and 20 pounds lighter, and now she helps many women do the same. She is also a proud graduate of Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts Mastery program, a NYC institution that teaches women to use the power of pleasure to have their way with the world.

Cortney lives in Baltimore with her 2 kids, her dog and her husband. A passionate traveler, photographer, gardener and foodie, when she isn’t dancing or listening to music (her favorite things!), Cortney is all about engaging all of her senses in service to her inner badass—and awakening the inner badass in every highly sensitive person she encounters!

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